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Homeschooling problems.

Many times we tend to get a rosy look of the homeschooling life.  Maybe we have seen families who homeschool and their children are so well behaved and so respectful to their parents and so talented.  Or maybe it sounds so easy...stay in pajamas half the day witht he kids snuggled all around you.
  Well, here are some of the problems that I have faced or am facing.
1.  You are with your children all the time.  ALL the time.  That means you absolutely never get a break.   So it is easy to get fustrated or tired out, for you AND for them.  And sometimes you have to just plow through, because the work HAS to get done.
2. Being compared.  Whether you are comparing yourself to your image of homeschooling, or your spouse or loved ones are comparing you, this can be extremely fustrating.  Especially if you live in an area that has a TON of homeschoolers that are seemingly very successful. 
3. Discipline problems.  Homeschooling is a very disciplined task.  If you lack self discipline it is more challenging. Kids aren't going to just sit their quietly and do their work because you tell them to.  you have to constantly tell them to be wuiet and focus on their work.  Especially the 2nd-4th or 5th grades.  Kindergarten you are mostly with that child so they get done quickly. First grade you are trying to train them to do the work themselves, but they still get a lot of your attention. But if you have more than 2 children, you are going to depend on the older ones being able to work independanlty a lot. \
4. Attitude problems.  I don't know what it is, but about 5th grade children seem to think they have all the answers, and whether they are in private school or homeschooled, that answer seems to be go to public school.  This makes homeschooling a challenge dealing with the rebellion and still getting work done.
5. Housework.  If you are having to spend all your time making the children do their work, you will not be able to spend a lot of time on the house.  But a messy house is distracting to you and to your children.  Not to mention I have this image of the perfect housewife having the house spotless and the kids smiling and obedient and respectful and all highly talented.
6.  Finances.  The cost of things keeps going up and up. Living off one income is harder and harder each week.  For us, we are now trying to jugle homeschool with me working a part time job.  Some homeschool mothers work from the home.
7. vast differences in learning styles or maturity rates.   Not everyone has the same learning style, and not every child matures at the same rate.  In my case, I have an 11 yo, a 10 yo, and a 6 yo.  My 10 yo boy is still at a maturity lvl near the 7 yo.  This means I am constanly putting him back on task and he absolutely hates doing paper work.  But he is more on the creative, emotional side of things than the athletic macho side.  So he gets fustrated very easily. 
8. the right curricullem.  This can be tricky.  You may be under pressure to use a certain curricullem, or all of one instead of using different things for different subjects.  Some prefer to use a generic curicullem, and do units all together with the assignments based off the age. 

9 the pressure of testing.  Most states have testing requirements at certain grades.  This can put a lot of pressure on the parent...I mean if your child fails the test you run the risk of loking like a failure.  Forget that not everyone tests well.  

10. If you add all these things together, plus the daily pressures and the normal school stuffs (getting tables memorized or facts drilled, the new puppy/baby, spring cleaning/remodeling, etc....) than homeschooling can be extremely stressful.  You have to reevaluate WHY you homeschool, STOP comparing yourself to other families, make time for yourself, and (most important) seek God's face every day...even if it is only while you are in the bathroom.  Talk with your spouse about the pressures you may be going through...if you are the spouse, be supportive and try to help, not criticize.  See if there is a co-op or homeschool fellowship in your area.   


I just got a wake up call. On talk radio I hear a broadcast that Paul Harvey made back in the 60 called "if I were the devil". http://youtu.be/oSFaLUZ2rf4 What a shock!  The things he was predicting or saying the devil would try to do to destroy America are the very things that HAVE taken place today. 
   The only thing that can help our land today is for God's people to follow God's word in 2 Chronicles.  "If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land."
   Our country will never recover from external changes.  That's like trying to fix a house by slapping a coat of paint on.  It doesn't fix the problem, it mearly masks it.

   The first thing the Bible says for God's people to do is humble themselves. God's people. NOt the drunk next door, or the homeosexual coworker, or the corrupt politician.  The Church needs to humble themselves.  We need to wake up and realize that we NEED revival. Not just on a national level, but on a personal level.  I need a revival.  YOU need a revival.  Your pastor needs a revival. 
    Then we are to pray.  Pray without ceasing.  There will not be a revival without prayer.
Not just pray, but seek His face.  Look what does God say about things.  Again, not for your neighbors sake, but for YOU.  The Bible is not a club to beat your neighbors with, but a mirror for us to see our spiritual selves in.  
  If a Christian has earnestly done the first 3 things, then this last one will not be as hard as it sounds.  We have to turn from OUR wicked ways.  (again, not our neighbors who need turning, but we do).
  If we will do those things, that God has promised He will heal our land.  So what are we waiting for?  Revival starts with us!

Getting to know me

Just for fun I thought I would give some random little known things about me so you can know me better.\
1.  I like music.  Not just Christian or classic either.  My taste is pretty varied and dependnig on my mood.
2.  I am a gamer.  RPG's hack and slash video games, MMORPG's, some board games
3. I have always had a computer of some sort.  True my first vcomputer was an atari that I had to put the basic cartridge in one side and the game in the other, but it had a keyboard as well.  I did NOT have the Atari game system
4. I like fantasy.  Goes with being a gamer I guess.  And I even enjoy some scifi. 
5.  I think it would be fun to learn to belly dance. I would never do so in public, but I still think it would be fun
6.  I get extrememly nervous being in front of people.  Some things aren't so bad like cheering or interpreting, but other things are. It depends on how much i can move I think.  Moving helps a LOT
7.  My mind wanders a lot.  I have a very vivid imagination.  I have difficulties staying to task
8.  There are things I hate about myself...like my temper.  I get very fustrated with my children and I hate myself for it. I also hate how disorganized I am and that I am not an immactulate cleaner.  I'm usually doing good to keep it tidy
9. I like to do puzzles
10. My favorite fragrance is plumeria
11. I like jewelry and makeup but don't wear it very often because I was not allowed to wear it at all groing up.  Never got in the habit then so I don't think of it now.
12.  I fanticize about being very good at the piano (no mistakes good) and writing a book, or childrens devotional
13. I want to see a Christian school started in my county and am willing to start one if I had the place to do so.
14 I want people to like me. 
15 if I were an animal I would be a squirrel...or maybe a kitten...or maybe a butterfly. 
16 prefer cats to dogs
17 would rather drive a standard shift car
18.  I like all colors except brown and orange.  And even those colors have their place.
19.  I am always coming up with ideas.
20.  beleve that there is a little truth to almost every myth.  we really are not as imaginative as we think ourselves to be.
21.  Shoot to kill.  an injured person can shoot back
22.  thinks that there is a place for medicine and for alternatives and that the truth is a blend of all styles

On submission

  Something that has become clear to me and grows clearer each day) is that our righteosness does not come from ourselves, but from Jesus Christ.  In other words, I don't care what church you go to, how long your dress is, whether you watch tv or not (or even if you are ON tv) your righteousness does not come from you.  All OUR righteousness is as filthy rags (Rags used to clean up vomit is the filthies I couuld think of and thats our good works).  Our righteousness comes only from Jesus Christ.  The more we submit to Him and obey, the more His righteousness shows through us.  A few areas have stood out to me lately.  The area of church attendance and the area of feminine submission.
    When talking about church membership we tend to be proud of our church.  Our church is the best.  Our church is the greatest, and if you aren't going there well you must not be right with God.  I have learned though that a person does not stop being who they were because they are now attending elsewhere.  They are not automatically a spiritual reprobate because they left and went to another church. Now the leavetakings are not always good (in fact it can sometimes be quite painful or ugly),  But the Holy Spirit is not tied down to a specific church body.  If a person is truly born again the Holy spirit goes with them wherever and is constantly working to conform them to His image. It is shere arrogance on the part of a person who believes that their church is better or more spiritual than another church of like faith.  I mention of like faith because I am comparing Baptist church to Baptist church.
   Feminine submission is another area that has been on my mind a lot lately.  Sure there are some men who believe women are beneath them and that women cannot be spiritually discerning, but those men tend to be spiritually immature and really not wirth my time.  I WILL say that women played a vital role throughout scriptures for good and ill.  Without women Moses would not have survived.  Because of a woman a whole family was saved when Jericho fell.  Because of a woman's prayers the prohet Samuel was born.  Because of a woman King David did not kill an entire household (Abigail interceeded).  Because of a woman the whole nation of Israeal escaped a genocide at the hands of Hamaan.  It was a woman that bore and raised Jesus Christ.  A woman witnessesing brought half a town to Christ (the woman at the well).  It was a woman that annointed the feet of Jesus.  
    There is also the thought that the church is likened to a woman...the Bride of Christ.  A woman is supposed to submit to her husband even as the church is supposed to submit to Jesus Christ. But my favorite thought is that when a woman is submissive to her husband, they maybe they are being a picture of Christ Himself.  A woman is not less than a man in any way.  Neither is Christ less than God.  But Christ humbled Himself and took the form of a man.  In that same way a Woman is supposed to humble herself and submit to her husband. 
   One last rambling though about submission.   a forced submission is not true submission.  Submission is an attitude of recognizing and humbling oneself to an authority over you.That does not mean that the authority is better, smarter, or more spiritual than you, but that they are merely the one in authority. Obey the authority and you will be blessed. If the authority is wrong, aproach with a humble attitude, always recognizing that they are in authority. 

The Love of God

Right now I'm dealing with a hard part about the love of God.  Earlier today i saw an article about a man who had raped an 11 yo then  tried to hire a hitman to take her, the unborn child, and her family out.  My first reaction is that there is a special place in hell for things like him, and that if it were my child he may not have survived long enough to try to hire.  Then the Lord reminded me that as a Christian I am supposed to love one such as him.  Quite frankly that kind of love does not exist in me it can only come from God.  then I remember how that God DID show His love already for this man and many just like him.  Jesus knew every sin that ever was and ever will be when He died on the cross.  And He loved us so much He did it anyway.  He didn't just die for the "good" people who do what we percieve as lite sins.  He died for the foulest of the foul.  He is not willing that ANY should perish but that all should come to repentance.  That is a hard teaching.  



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My name is Becky Griffin, and I am the mother of 3 wonderful children. I surrently stay at home and homeschool.My husband, David, and I have been married since 97. We have learned a lot in those years.
My beliefs are mostly conservative, but it has more to do with loving the Lord than trying to impress or be righteous. My righteousness comes from Jesus Christ. He is my all in all. I do question a lot - in every aspect of my life. I love all kinds of music and play the piano a bit. I grew up singing with my parents and absolutely love the harmonies of a good quartet or trio.
Because we live on a single income, I am learning to be frugal with my spending. I'm willing to try homemade cleaners. I do tend to make meals from scratch, and am open to trying a frugal tip at least once.
I do study herbs and alternative remedies, and believe that the truth in medicine and health lies in a conglomoration of many different schools of thinking. It depends on what the problem is. I do wish Doctors would ask more questions.
I hope you enjoy my blog. It is a mixmatch of what is going on in my life, frugal tips, alternative health talk, homeschool talk, parenting, and my current thoughts on spiritual matters.
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